Practice

A conversation you just worked through

What was said and done, not yet what it meant.
A Field Reflection comes back in four sentences.

Answer five questions about a conversation you have just worked through — a scenario from the Practice Lab, or one you set up yourself.

The first three are the Read — the move you already make in every conversation, usually without naming it. You notice something. You take it to mean something. You do something about it. Each step is built on the one before, so naming them is what lets you see which one gave way, if one did.

The fourth asks you to notice again, because their response is a new signal. The fifth is where the conversation turned.

Four sentences come back: one signal, one reframe, one direction, and one question to take into a live conversation.

The more faithfully you preserve the conversation, the more The Caveris Method™ can show you what you noticed but may not yet be able to name. Practice is the fieldwork: no client, no relationship on the line. Whatever the Reflection finds — the step that gave way, or the one that carried the conversation — you learn it here, not in a situation with real consequences.

◆You, and what you worked through

Notice

What did you notice?

What you could see or hear — words, pauses, what didn’t get said. Just what happened, before what you made of it: “she went quiet after the price came up,” rather than “she doesn’t trust me.”

Interpret

What did you think it meant?

What you thought was going on for them at that moment. This is about what you understood then, not what you know now.

Orient

What did you ask, or do?

What you chose to do next based on what you thought was happening. Your actual words if you remember them, or what you did — including deciding to say nothing.

Notice again

What happened next?

How they responded — their words, a pause, a change in tone, a change of subject.

Turning point

Where was the turning point, if there was one?

The moment something shifted — in what they said, what you noticed, what you understood, or what you did next. If nothing stands out, that is useful to notice too.

Takes about fifteen seconds. It appears here, and a copy goes to the email above.